Our minds, bodies and souls I believe are intrinsically woven together. Understanding ourselves and those we love is complex, messy and wonderful. It requires trust, a sense of worth, courage to communicate, bravery to face and feel the darkness, and to share the joy.
Our lives flow in seasons, like the flowers that bloom, sometimes hibernating, nurturing the new roots, sometimes bursting into an array of colour. Learning to understand ourselves, our seasons and change helps us manage the unexpected ride of this wonderful life.
These things I find help myself and clients:
– If you don’t have time to pause, it’s when you must make time – distractions, busy, overwhelm, self sabotage are all potential forms avoiding healing yet also ways of coping, so go gently and consistently, journal, pen and paper, write your thoughts down, notice unhelpful thoughts and try to change gradually.
– Notice how you talk to yourself and what you choose to share – be more helpful, notice happy moments and remember to breathe deep. Move your body, walk daily, stretch, hydrate, eat some simple, nourishing food, do something tiny, take action – join a club, sign up to a course, ask for help, it will be the hardest thing but I promise will shift things. Volunteer, help someone else, sounds weird but kindness helps kindness grow.
– Don’t take it personally, if someone doesn’t get back to you or make time – people often don’t know how to help, so either tell them what’s best for you, or be brave and ask for professional help.
– There isn’t a ‘right or wrong’ way to be mentally and physically well, but finding what works for you is key.
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A year ago was Jenny’s cremation, I was with the dive team when we found her following a 48hr search. Suicide has a profound effect on so many lives, finding your hope and worth in this world, day by day is your key – having the conversations and sharing the love in person, not after life.
We’ve done a memory walk and charity circuits, raising nearly £200 for Big change and other local charities, well done all and thank you for coming.
Be brave, know you matter, I’m always here to support you find your magic. You can reach me here.
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