Sending compassion and care to anyone who needs this today or whenever you may find it, I am here, reach out any time.
I think we are scared to use the word suicide. In case we have considered it, or fear someone we love may consider it. And by not mentioning, it will go away.
Samaritans help – Suicide brings all the raw human emotions to the surface, different for each person affected. It brings an end to possibilities with that person, much like any sudden loss. Yet so different. It leaves a trail, a ripple of chaos. Nothing is simple.
I write this sensitively and openly having been affected by family suicide and coaching several people from all walks of life impacted with it. I hope it may help help one person connect with a reason to live, or help each person support another and themselves.
If you’re in a dark place:
- How could you make 1% of your day ok? Changing state is good – walk, listen to music, watch TV, eat something, take a breath, hug an animal, drag yourself to volunteer, call a helpline, journal. Speak to the Samaritans or Calm Zone.
- Call a friend or family member too, but sometimes you can’t do this. So the above may help shift things until you can ask for help. Go hour by hour, day by day.
If you’re helping someone in a dark place:
- Text them, write a letter, send an email. Share what you’re up, tell them why you value them, go for a walk with them, send photos. Anything that gives human connection and value.
- Talking about the problem and helping find support is key, but sharing life and meaning with them can make them feel less of a problem.
- Get support for yourself too, you matter too.
If you’re coping with loss:
- Don’t bypass negative emotions, this is normal, challenging and incredibly tough but essential to allow yourself the space to process and allow a new life to start to form. Take time for yourself, either doing things to get moving, or pausing to heal. You will know which is right for you, even if you don’t want to do it.
My grandmother used to say, ‘this too will pass, your way will open up and you matter, even when you don’t think you do.’
You matter, even when you don’t realise you do.
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